Sexual misconduct is a serious thing and should not be pursued lightly.

It’s easy to ruin a persons reputation [and I mean the molester / accidental molester / victim / witnesses etc]through rumour and inuendo, which is why it’s important to be sure and have enough evidence to pursue anything legally.
[The Simpsons Episode with the Venus De Gummi is another example of mistaken sexual misconduct ... not that it matters as I think we've already established it isn't an accident].

In some places the courts prefer to err on the side of a victim, whilst in other countries they err on the side of the molesters [mainly as they're male ego centric countries and the molesters are usually male].

But, between the two choices [of being friends with a molester or a liar, it still comes down to the situation etc].

I’m sure I could write forever on this subject. lol

sweetheart: maybe u missed parts of my post, i’m the victim and I know a few girls who are too. i don’t think it’s fair to ask your friends to choose, if they can still see good in the asshole, it’s their choice. it hurt but i’ve come to terms with it.

Unless they come with ‘benefits’.

Friends with benefits all the way!!!!!!!

Kim - If this friend who touches people inappropriately is a girl, I think I’d like to meet her [I need all the physical contact I can get at my age] … else, I’d probably ditch both of those friends. Why keep one? You’re presenting what’s called the double bind, a choice between one evil or the other. Of course, it depends on the situations in both those cases.
Someone can ‘ACCIDENTALLY’ touch someone inappropriately. I know because I once reached behind me to shut a wardrobe door when I was putting a guitar away and accidentally grabbed someone else’s butt rather than the door … luckily they burst out laughing as they knew it was an accident. In another case once when they were playing tag at Church one of the male fellowship leaders went to tag a girl who ducked and he grabbed her on the boob … yes, it was hilarious and the girl laughed herself silly whilst the poor guy turned bright red. So, we have TWO cases of accidentally touching inappropriately. What if when I shut the door the person whose butt I grabbed didn’t know it was an accident? What if when the guy went to tag the girl she thought he’d done it on purpose? Two cases easily mistaken for molesting.
As for the lying etc, yeah, I’ve ditched friends for that, and other times I’ve forgiven them and kept them a friends. All depends on WHAT they’ve said and how bad it was or even if it was done on purpose, maliciously etc.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not doubting your choice about the molester you aren’t friends with now, because I don’t know the situation. BUT, that’s my point. Unless there are plenty of witnesses it comes down to one friends word against another and if it was an accident, then how can we truly know?

I mean, my ex [back when I was married] once grabbed my testicles and crushed them in order to force me to have sex with her [at about 1:30am mind you on a work night - don't worry girls, the testicles still work fine - guys, yes I can feel your eyes watering from here]. Yet, she didn’t lose one single friend even through our divorce etc because her friends were too busy making up excuses for her behaviour. [Remembering she also tried to insure me for $1 Million and kill me and also had an affair and got pregnant to another guy].

So, people often DON’T chose friends by what they do, but simply by who they want to be friends with [and those reasons can be awfully complex]. That’s why people often cover up for murderers and rapist and other heinious people. I mean, how many friends did Adolph Hitler have when he was powerful? Lots!!!

Then, there is the other side of the coin. People who make genuine mistakes, end up in a mess and all their friends desert them! Do not true friends stick by you? But, like you say, they are the ones who will tell you your feet stink, so they’ll tell you they disagree with what you did, but will still try to help you in your situation. [And I don't mean you help them get off. Like, if your friend murders someone, I expect you to convince them to confess to the police and then stick by them as they go through the trial ... if that makes sense].

nicole: why thank you miss!