Why dogs are better for babies than people

I know what some people are thinking, “Aiya, so precious…can hang out with a dog but cannot with people. Dogs more dirty lah”. Long story short, because dogs don’t catch colds, humans do.

When you look at pictures of Liam, he looks strong and healthy right? Yeah, he does and I’m happy for that.

However, he’s still a preterm baby, which means his lungs had not been able to develop fully before getting born. Unfortunately once he’s born, his lung development slows down significantly, to the point that it will be a year before we’re confident he could fight off colds/flu on his own like an ordinary full term baby.

If he were to contract any cold now, not only it is bordering dangerous for him, it could also mean developing asthma when he’s older. That’s why we’re not really into bringing him out although, trust me I really want to get out of our house, go shopping and attend parties (especially children’s parties!).

I mean, we live in a society where people think it’s heroic to go to work when having a cold. People that cough and sneeze without covering their noses/mouths and people that don’t wash their hands regularly. The scariest of all is that most people don’t even know that they are carrying cold viruses until they develop running nose and coughs, by then it’s too late already.

So yeah, don’t give me the stink-eye for keeping my bub in.

Also, dogs don’t smoke. Preemie lungs are incredibly sensitive to cigarette smoke, that should a smoker wants to visit a preemie, he or she would have to shower and change into fresh clothes! That’s because the smoke and chemicals could paralyse the microscopic hair-like structures in immature lungs causing SIDS (Sudden infant death syndrome), asthma and other respiratory issues. In fact, cigarette smokes are as bad for full term babies for the first few years of their lives.

I was a smoker and have quit for almost a year. When I was still smoking, I used to think Malaysia was so awesome cause we could smoke anywhere as long as it’s outdoor or in kopitiams (cheap cafe restaurants with cheap food) and used to pooh pooh parents who were bitchy about wanting to hang out in smoking places. Like, “Hello, if you’re scared of cigarette smokes than don’t hang out here lah wtf”.

Well, now it’s back biting me in the ass cause now I finally understand.

The fact that I can’t eat outdoors to enjoy a breeze or at kopitiams for a few years when Liam’s with us because people could just nonchalantly light up piss me off. I hope Malaysia will be like Singapore or England soon, where smoking bans whether indoors or outdoors are strictly enforced. I hope smoking will be stigmatised in Malaysia, I truly do.

Dogs on the other hand, they bring in faunas, germs and “dirts” that could strengthen his immune system. I’m not making this shit up, it’s been documented since at least year 2002. Here’s another more recent article from Time extolling the virtues of having children with pets (btw dogs are scientifically proven to be better than cats, hehehe).

So I apologise for being anti-social, for being unexcited about visitors and for preferring dogs over people. But I’m not sorry about it.

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Oh hello there, long time no see.

It’s not that I haven’t been blogging, but I’ve been a lot more active on DAYRE. Whenever I’m breastfeeding Liam or rocking him to sleep in my arms, I could post on DAYRE instead of my main blog because it’s just far more convenient to update on my phone. There’s also a very good community on DAYRE which I have grown to love. It really reminds me of the old days of blogging.

I love DAYRE because it’s somewhere I could really put down my thoughts daily. Whenever I post on my blog or twitter or instagram, I’ve always tried to at least make it sound or look somewhat pretty (as much as I can lah) but on DAYRE, it’s just all out there.

Not to say that my content on DAYRE is of less quality. Perhaps less compelling (as if the content here is more compelling hur hur hur but bear with me) but definitely more real.

So if you would still like to read about my everyday, you can check me out at http://dayre.me/kimberlycun

Even the husband is on it, he’s an even bigger fan I think! You can check him out at http://dayre.me/shaolintiger

Of course I will continue to blog here, I’m just not ready to let this go yet since I’ve been blogging here for almost 10 years!

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Update on Liam. 2 weeks ago at his monthly check-up, he weighed a hefty 5.4kg! I was so chuffed. He’s a far cry from the tiny 1.7kg baby he was.

Whenever I look at him nowadays, I can’t even believe that he was a preterm baby, a 32 weeker at that! I feel very grateful that he’s growing up healthily and hope it will always be so.

This is pretty much my life everyday, lying and rolling around in bed in my underwear entertaining the little one till he falls asleep. And when he does, I will take pictures or try to blog (as I’m doing right now).

I do other little things too I suppose, which again, you could check out at my DAYRE, hahaha.

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I’ve also changed the header picture of this blog. If you’re still seeing the old one, please press CTRL + F5 to refresh.

I know, I know, it’s humongous but I just couldn’t make it smaller as I couldn’t bear to crop out either Liam’s face or my face.

But he’s just so incredibly cute in this picture, isn’t he??

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What I wore for this year’s Halloween:

It’s an old sailor costume I bought online from years ago, quilted bag was from a now defunct online shop and the pumps were bought in Bangkok.

Not very mommy-esque I suppose but hey you only live once. Someone commented rudely on this blog about me posting naked pictures of myself on Instagram (I never did. Ok, implied nudity perhaps hur hur hur) and that it’s unbecoming for a mother but to my own defence, I won’t have these breasts forever, you know.

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So, here’s a dorky picture of me to balance it all out.

Happy now?

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2nd Wedding Anniversary

Two years ago, Gareth and I celebrated our wedding at with friends and family.

Last year, we celebrated our 1st wedding anniversary at the beautiful Malihom.

This year, we will celebrate our 2nd anniversary with our lil tyke, Liam :)

Before Liam was born, the husband and I made a pact – to always prioritise each other over our children. I suppose some people may find this weird or even unacceptable. How could your spouse come before your children?

We’ve likened it to an emergency situation on an airplane. Despite parental intuition to first help a child put on the oxygen mask, the instruction is that one must put on the oxygen mask first BEFORE helping to put it on a child. The reason is simple really; a conscious adult is more capable of taking care of a child than the conscious child alone.

Basically, we are each other’s oxygen mask. If we don’t help each other first, we won’t be able to help our children. If we neglected each other’s needs, our child’s needs will not be fully fulfilled. We have to first keep each other happy in order to keep our kids happy.

Make sense?

So, despite a sneaky intention to forgo any celebration of our 2nd wedding anniversary due to still being rather overwhelmed by the demands of our infant son, I say NO to this nonsense. NO to not celebrating because you do it once, you do it always.

I am his oxygen mask and he is mine and together we’re going to make today as special as possible.

Gareth, I love you so much. Thank you for being such a wonderful husband to me.

Thank you for being my rock, especially this year when Liam arrived too early and had to be admitted to NICU. While I only had to care about Liam, you had to care about me, Liam, work AND also the mountain of medical bills. Not once you faltered under stress.

Thank you for being a positive anchor in my life, for always reminding me that there’s no other way of living other than to constantly improve as a person. My speed is slow but you remain patient and ever willing to nudge me further. You are my inspiration, my life mentor.

Because of you, I have the confidence to be a good mother to Liam and his future siblings. And thank you for being so smart. Actually I have to thank my mom-in-law, Susan for that hehe. Thanks Mom!

Happy 2nd Wedding Anniversary boobr! Here’s to at least 70 more to celebrate together.

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