I understand my Dad’s concern but when I seeked advice from him that was all I wanted. Plain simple words of advice. But Dad being Dad, has to go around actually creating career opportunities for me. I really appreciate his help, I really do but I wish he’d know that I prefer to do things by myself. Since young till now, I’ve always done things at my own prerogative, sure I do like some support now and then but ultimately my decision would always be mine. Why? Because I want to know I have options. Because I hate to dissappoint anyone (loved ones namely) who’s involved in helping me. Worst of all, I don’t want to be trapped in something due to obligations. I don’t want to not be able to leave a job that I hate because Dad put me there, you catch my drift.
My Dad, as a responsible father has already laid the last brick for my career path and now it’s only down to me to walk it. One part of me says “Yes, do it. It’s the third largest company in the industry, you’ll start low and get paid even lower but you’ll rise steadily through the ranks”, while another part of me says, “OMFG you’re going to be confined to a fucking cubicle for 9 hours daily with cardboard colleagues as companions. Best of all, you’ll be earning so little and your entertainment will be limited to watching Protons inching forward on KL roads”.
Am I turning into a statistic? Is the government right afterall, that we’re just a bunch of ungrateful, choosy mofos? I don’t know. I never really feared not getting a job. Perhaps it was over-confidence, perhaps it’s something that I couldn’t relate to, being a student and all. Or perhaps I just never thought about how incredibly horrible it would to be doing something that you absolutely detest. Perhaps this is just post-university jitters.
At the meantime, I’m hoping that the application I submitted last week will procure a reply, cause at the least, I know I definitely prefer this job over Dad’s recommendation anytime. Wish me luck please, I really need some.
Azmeen said:
on December 30, 2005 at 9:11 am
Man, I can surely relate to that!
After I quit my first “real” job in Singapore (mostly due to the ridiculous jam and overzealous “scanning” after Sept. 11 and the SARS outbreak), my mother was incessantly pushing my dad to recommend me to some of his friends.
By sheer coincidence, I actually applied to one of the companies where a friend of my dad has considerable “influence” in. But by the time my dad talked to him, I was already offered the job.
Interestingly, I declined the position because an education startup offered me a similar position at about the same pay rate.
I never had any difficulty clinching an interview, in fact I have an almost 100% record of acing my interviews and actually being offered the position.
Somehow my mum thinks that I’m “not as good” as others. I don’t really mind that, because I’m in IT and she has no idea what this industry is like. Thankfully, all my employers (past and present) do!
All the best in your job-hunting!
Fireangel said:
on December 30, 2005 at 9:41 am
Whatever you do, just don’t end up like me.
fish fish said:
on December 30, 2005 at 1:09 pm
Good luck girl. Hope the new year will give you the good news. ^_^
KY said:
on December 30, 2005 at 3:26 pm
is azmeen trying to be like dabido?
S-Kay said:
on December 30, 2005 at 5:05 pm
Working with someone your dad recommended you to would be a no-no for me because you’d be obligated to live up to certain expectations and if you don’t, you’re kinda like giving your dad a bad name. Good luck with the job app.
spiller said:
on December 30, 2005 at 5:37 pm
third largest company in the industry? hmm.. wonder which one it’ll be?
any clue?
Fieran said:
on December 30, 2005 at 5:59 pm
You could ask Dad for some time, wait for that application for the job you really like and all that..or You could take the job Dad got you first, and then see if you get the other reply (Tell Dad that though, otherwise there’ll be sparks when you talk about quitting).
Wingz said:
on December 30, 2005 at 6:18 pm
BM good luck and happy new year!!!
ShaolinTiger said:
on December 30, 2005 at 6:27 pm
KY: I don’t think so, Azmeen didn’t manage to tell her ENTIRE life story in one comment
Don’t worry Kim, no rush I guess, just take your time a bit, treat your dads offer as a safety net, keep going ahead with what you want to do.
If that doesn’t work out, go ahead and take your dads offer, doesn’t mean you can’t leave it.
It just gives you some experience in another field and a bit of money to save while you look for a more suitable job.
shari said:
on December 30, 2005 at 8:41 pm
maybe you could take up on your dad’s offer. if a better job comes along, then you should take that instead. understand about the pressures of finding a job..my dad has been hinting at me for a week now.
good luck on your presentation next week.
foodcrazee said:
on December 30, 2005 at 8:57 pm
with the econs now, its better to take ur dads offer as a stepping stone. Look for a better career opportunity and then cabot ler..
all da best
Beefstew said:
on December 31, 2005 at 4:00 am
You can make a deal or something with your dad. It’s like “Dad, give me 5 years, if I screwed up then I take your offer”
In another case, ‘most’ of my friends (with dad who own a business) will end up helping their daddy after they’d been out there for like 5 years trying whatever they want to do…a.k.a they screwed up after five years.
So fully support you to try out what ever you wanted to try first, if not, sure you’ll ‘die with your eyes open’.
Kimberlycun said:
on December 31, 2005 at 2:06 pm
thanks all for the advice. i think i’ll know what to do. as the chinese saying goes, “the ship aligns itself as it approaches the harbour”. happy new year